There are two emotions: Love and fear. All other emotions derive from one of these. Love is something that comes natural to us. Hate isn’t. The latter is something that is learned, or programmed, into the human psyche. If you look at kids, all they do is play and explore. There is no fear. All actions are about love. Something happens in the growth process and each child comes to a harsh understanding that fear exists. At this point, doubt and fear overtake the mind. Each human learns then undergoes another process in which his or her heart breaks. This then has an affect on him or her, causing a feeling of inadequacy, learning to love him or herself less. Then as relationships come and go, he or she think they are learning wisdom from the experiences, heeding all caution from any signals that may not even be signals, showing insecurities and lack of self respect. This creates the need for another person’s constant assurance that the other person is loved. Boy, have we got love all fucked up.
Love isn’t the feeling of needing someone. Love should be is a feeling of overabundance of love for self. A love for self that pushes one to explore the world further, to better oneself, to handle all communications with a warm and loving tone. Love is something that should be shared with nothing in expectation of reciprocation. Love is an understanding and acceptance, of self and of others.
When you need someone, that means you place them in a higher state or importance than yourself. That means you have given that person full control over your kingdom. To give someone that power is not love. That’s giving someone all governing rule over you. Love isn’t pity either. When you pity someone, you have lost all respect for that person. Love in a relationship means you allow the other person to make their own mistakes and decisions with no judgement. You let them help him or herself out and it never enables.
Love should be shared. Two halves. One person putting in 50% and the other person meeting the other 50%. If it’s any more or any less, love will conquer through communication.
It really isn’t that complicated. Love yourself. Everything else will fall in place.